Wow, I don't know if you can get it to handle like the Cayenne or not. Porsche is known for their handling abilities. However with the FJ, you will not be spending nearly the amount of time at the repair shop. Cayennes and their VW clones have horrible maintenance records. Also, FJ's are meant for serious off-roading which means there will be some trade-offs in on-road handling. I know for a fact that no Cayenne can go where I take my FJ. Sorry this doesn't solve your problem, but hopefully it will allow you to make a more informed decision.